First off, I know that “planful” is not a word, but it should be, so I have invented it.
This blog is about mediated separation when one’s partnership goes all wrong, when “person one” is a distancer (emotional cutoff) and “person two” is a pursuer (“do this, do this”) or when nothing changes and nothing gets done.
It is about how to separate the relationship in a way that allows the couple to talk some sense rather than rant, and to make some changes rather than just quit.
Some couples get back together through this process and some don’t — but it has to do with a person’s choice, rather than just guilt and coercion or storing up and blowing up.
You can read about it on the Ducklow web site under “Tools — Planful and Mediated Separation.”